Sexuality educator Deanne Carson ignited a firestorm of opinions with her unconventional advice: asking babies for permission before changing their diapers.
During her 2018 appearance on ABC News, Carson suggested that parents seek nonverbal cues, such as body language and eye contact, to ensure the child’s consent.
While acknowledging babies can’t verbally respond, Carson emphasized the importance of creating a culture of consent from infancy.
However, her proposal raised practical concerns: what if the baby indicates reluctance? Would parents leave them in a soiled diaper until “consent” is given?
The backlash was swift, with many labeling the idea “absurd” and “unworkable.” Some Twitter users ridiculed the concept, joking about wrestling toddlers and leaving them in dirty diapers.
Yet, others saw value in teaching consent, even if Carson’s approach was extreme.
Fast-forward to today, and some childcare centers are adopting similar strategies. Only About Children centers now encourage parents to “ask for cooperation” during diaper changes, promoting sensory exploration and independence.
Their guidance includes:
Asking for help
Explaining actions
Encouraging sensory engagement
Fostering independence
The debate surrounding Carson’s original statement continues, highlighting the challenges of balancing consent education with practical parenting.
Is this approach a vital step in teaching boundaries, or an unrealistic expectation? The conversation rages on.
